Evolutionary Needs [ what do men want vs women ]

To contact us Click HERE

Evolutionary Needs

Explanations> Needs > Evolutionary NeedsStaying alive | Findinga mate | Nurturing our young | So what?
One of the basic and perhaps most degrading tenets of Darwinian evolution,which was expounded by Richard Dawkins in 'The Selfish Gene', is that we arelittle more than 'gene machines'. Seen from a fundamentalist evolutionary sense,our sole purpose in life is to propagating our genes, and our needs are honed torelentlessly drive us in this direction.

Staying alive

The first step towards procreation is in staying healthy and alive. Thismeans finding food and shelter and, if necessary, beating other people in orderto get it.

Finding a mate

Once we are reasonably secure, the next step towards procreating our genes isfinding a mate (and doing the deed, of course).For this, we again may need to beat off other suitors, or at least impressour potential partners sufficiently that they choose to mate with us rather thanour genetic competitors.The fact that the male is larger than the female is a common sign that humansare naturally a male-dominated society in which dominant males will have more than one mate. The larger male is not only better ableto fight off other males, but they are also able to keep women in their place.The force of genetics sadly does not know about Political Correctness.

What men want 

Men and women look for different things in their partners. Men look for womenwho seem likely to be able to bear plenty of strong children. They thus look forwomen who:

• are young and healthy and have many childbearing years ahead of them.
• have large breasts for feeding their children.
• have wide hips so they will not have delivery problems.

Men are also easily fooled by symbolism such as red lipstick that remindsthem of a full vagina and make-up that fills in the cracks and makes the womanlook younger than she is.Men are not monogamous by nature, and a man will happily have children withmany women, as this spreads his seed around and increases the chances ofsuccessful propagation of his genes.

What women want

Women are not like men. A major difference is that they are generally left tobring up the children, giving them ten to twenty years of work after theirdebilitating nine months of pregnancy. They thus look for men who:

• are strong and powerful and can feed and protect them and their children.
• are kind and thoughtful and will stay with them.

Women thus will settle for older men who have gained affluence and positionin society and who may be less likely to stray. They fight other women not withstrength, but with cunning and carefully-placed words (which they also use togreat effect with men).Women are not predisposed toward sleeping around, as the result cannot be hiddenfrom their mates and having too many children may kill them or otherwise reducethe chances of their children surviving.

Nurturing our young

It is no good having children if we then let them die before they can passtheir genes on to their children. We thus are motivated to look after ourchildren at least until they can fly the nest. This can be a difficulttransition, but nature again has provided the answer in adolescence, where ourteenagers push back so hard and often that we are relieved to see them set outon their own!

The next generation

Being a grandparent is a very satisfying thing, as you now have proof thatyour genes have been passed on and that the responsibility for their propagationcan now be handed back to your children whenever you get a bit tired.

So what?

Sex sells. This is because it appeals to this most basic of needs. Use sexywomen to sell to men and powerful men to sell to women. Create tension byshowing the opposite sex being won away by another person. Show perfect bodiesand promise 'you, too, can have a body like this'.Children sell too. Awaken nurturing instincts by showing their innocence andvulnerability.

See also

Gender, The CIA Needs Model